Unit-10-profit-of-praise

Unit10PROFITSOFPRAISEJanetGrahamWarm-upquestionsBackgroundinformationTextanalysisPROFITSOFPRAISEWhatdidyourparentsdowhenyoumadeamistake?Andhowabouttheteacher?Whatkindoffeelingdoyouhavewhenyouarepraised?Howdoyoufeelwhenyouareblamed?Doyouoftenpraisepeopleorcriticizethem?HowdoChineseusuallydowithpraise?(=“It’snothing.”“Don’tmentionit.”Orotherwordstoconcealouractualhappyfeelingsinordertoshowourmodesty.)Doyouthinkthatpunishmentisthewaytomakeachildlearn?1)2)3)4)5)Warm-upQuestionsIcanlivefortwomonthsonagoodcompliment.---MarkTwain(thegreatAmericanwriterandhumorist)Ourpraiseareourwages.---Shakespeare(thegreatEnglishdramatistandpoet)Praiseisthebestwaytodevelopgoodrelationshipamongpeople.Thefirststepistoknowabouttheprofitsofpraiseandtopraiseothers.Herearesomesentencesaboutthepraise1.Youlookgreattoday.(你今天看上去很棒。）2.Youdidagoodjob.(你干得非常好！）3.Iamsoproudofyou.(我十分为你骄傲。）4.Youlookssobeautiful!(你很漂亮。）5.Thefoodisdelicious.(好吃！）6.Yourson/daughterissocute.(你的孩子很可爱。）7.Youhaveagoodsenseofhumor.(你真幽默。）8.YourEnglishisincredible.(我真不敢相信你的英语。）9.Yourcompanyisveryimpressive.(你的公司给我留下深刻的印象。）10.Youtwomakealovelycouple.(你们真是天生一对。）11.Youhaveagoodtaste.(你很有品味。）12.Youlooklikeamilliondollars.(你看上去帅呆了。）BeforeReading_3_WilliamShakespeareWilliamShakespeareWilliamShakespeare(1564-1616)wasanEnglishplaywrightandpoet,recognizedinmuchoftheworldasthegreatestofalldramatists.Hisstyle:Hisplayscommunicateaprofoundknowledgeofthesourcesofhumanbehavior,revealedthroughportrayalsofawidevarietyofcharacters.Hisuseofpoetrywithinhisplaystoexpressthedeepestlevelsofhumanmotivationinvarioussituationsisconsideredoneofthegreatestaccomplishmentsinliteraryhistory.Hisfamousplays:RomeoandJulietMuchAdoAboutNothingAMidsummerNight’sDreamTheMerchantofVeniceHamletMacbethBeforeReading_3_MarkTwainMarkTwainMarkTwain(1835-1910)isthepennameofSamuelLanghorneClemens,agreatAmericanwriterandhumorist.Hisstyle:Hisbestworkischaracterizedbybroad,oftenirreverenthumororbitingsocialsatire.Twain’swritingisalsoknownforrealismofplaceandlanguage,memorablecharacters,andhatredofhypocrisy（伪善）andoppression（压迫）.Hisfamouswork:TheAdventuresofHuckleberryFinn(1885)Thebookisthestoryofthetitlecharacter,knownasHuck,aboywhofleeshisfatherbyraftingdowntheMississippiRiverwitharunawayslave,Jim.GlobeReading._1_PartDivisionoftheTextPartDivisionoftheTextAnexamplethatshowstheimportanceofpraise.Thepossiblereasonswhypeoplearesocharyaboutgivingpraise.Theauthortakespeopleofdifferentsortsforexampleandfurtherexplainsthatpraisecanbringaboutunexpectedgoodeffectonthem.PartsLinesMainIdeas1—567—12123413—14Theauthorencouragespeopletogivemorepraisetoothers.Arewetooquicktoblameandslowtopraise?Itseemsweare.PROFITSOFPRAISEJanetGrahamItwastheendofmyexhaustingfirstdayaswaitressinabusyNewYorkrestaurant.Mycaphadgoneawry,myapronwasstained,myfeetached.TheloadedtraysIcarriedfeltheavierandheavier.Wearyanddiscouraged,Ididn’tseemabletodoanythingright.AsImadeoutacomplicatedcheckforafamilywithseveralchildrenwhohadchangedtheirice-creamorderadozentimes,Iwasreadytoquit.Thenthefathersmiledatmeashehandedmemytip.“Welldone,”hesaid.“You’velookedafterusreallywell.”Suddenlymytirednessvanished.Ismiledback,andlater,whenthemanageraskedmehowI’dlikedmyfirstday,Isaid,“Fine!”Thosefewwordsofpraisehadchangedeverything.Praiseislikesunlighttothehumanspirit;wecannotflowerandgrowwithoutit.Andyet,whilemostofusareonlytooreadytoapplytoothersthecoldwindofcriticism,wearesomehowreluctanttogiveourfellowsthewarmsunshineofpraise.Why—whenonewordcanbringsuchpleasure?Afriendofminewhotravelswidelyalwaystriestolearnalittleofthelanguageofanyplaceshevisits.She’snotmuchofalinguist,butshedoesknowhowtosayoneword—“beautiful”—inseverallanguages.Shecanuseittoamotherholdingherbaby,ortoalonelysalesmanfishingoutpicturesofhisfamily.Theabilityhasearnedherfriendsallovertheworld.It’sstrangehowcharyweareaboutpraising.Perhapsit’sbecausefewofusknowhowtoacceptcomplimentsgracefully.Instead,weareembarrassedandshrugoffthewordswearereallysogladtohear.Becauseofthisdefensivereaction,directcomplimentsaresurprisinglydifficulttogive.Thatiswhysomeofthemostvaluedpatsonthebackarethosewhichcometousindirectly,inaletterorpassedonbyafriend.Whenonethinksofthespeedwithwhichspitefulremarksareconveyed,itseemsapitythatthereisn’tmoreefforttorelaypleasingandflatteringcomments.It’sespeciallyrewardingtogivepraiseinareasinwhicheffortgenerallygoesunnoticedorunmentioned.Anartistgetscomplimentedforagloriouspicture,acookforaperfectmeal.Butdoyouevertellyourlaundrymanagerhowpleasedyouarewhentheshirtsaredonejustright?Doyoueverpraiseyourpaperboyforgettingthepapertoyouontime365daysayear?Praiseisparticularlyappreciatedbythosedoingroutinejobs:gas-stationattendants,waitresses—evenhousewives.Doyouevergointoahouseandsay,“Whatatidyroom?”Hardlyanybodydoes.That’swhyhouseworkisconsideredsuchadrearygrind.Commentisoftenmadeaboutactivitieswhicharerelativelyeasyandsatisfying,likearrangingflowers,butnotaboutjobswhicharehardanddirty,likescrubbingfloors.Shakespearesaid,“Ourpraisesareourwages.”Sincesooftenpraiseistheonlywageahousewifereceives,surelys